What keeps us attracted to our spouse as we age? A quick internet search on this left our heads spinning. So here’s our summary based on working with hundreds of couples…
1. INTERDEPENDENCE: Finding opportunities to lean on each other for different needs in life. Celebrating each others differences and then leaning on them
The opposite: Codependents that suck the life out of you and Independents that are more like roommates.
2. TRUST: Love is NOT the most important thing, but rather having someone you can rely on when you need them most. Are they engaged in doing life with you? Trust guides us in who we can love.
The opposite: The emotionally lazy spouse that avoids conflict, blames others, and is not accountable to their actions.
3. PHYSICAL APPEARANCE: Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and when we see our partners taking care of their health, prioritizing hygiene and taking care of themselves because they want to look good for us, that’s very attractive….