When it comes to fixing a marriage after infidelity…
…it is important to first and foremost make sure you’re both on the same page with this ONE truth before you do absolutely anything else:
Forgiveness is one-sided.
Reconciliation is two-sided.
Before you ever attempt to put a whole lot of effort into healing your marriage and trying to rebuild it and make it work, again, you need to agree that even if you are both able to forgive for the events of the affair and what led up to it, it will also take BOTH of you to be all in and fully committed reconciling and repairing your marriage. If you’re not on the same page with that, unfortunately you won’t get anywhere moving forward. The goal of your rebuilding journey ISN’T just to arrive at forgiving, but to reach far beyond that into changing your habits and behaviors to make sure nothing like this ever happens again.