Our words are powerful aren’t they?
The words we speak can either bring life and connection to the relationship, or they can destroy trust and cause hurt feelings. Words have real consequences. They affect how people perceive us, they affect how people respond to us, and they ultimately affect the quality of our marriage.
While working with couples, I’ve learned that many people don’t fully understand which phrases are hurtful and why. It may seem obvious to some, but I wanted to clearly list the phrases you have to stay away from and explain why they cause so much hurt in a marriage.
“I don’t think I love you anymore.”
Love is a choice, not a feeling and throwing out this statement can cause years of hurt feelings. You may not be feeling the love at the moment, but saying this phrase out loud is just mean and selfish. How is your spouse supposed to respond to you? …